Golf Balls & Mayo: a great life lesson

I don't particularly like golf or mayo...but I loved this story.

Such a powerful and simple visual with a great lesson. 

I saw it on facebook recently and wanted to share:

The Mayonnaise Jar

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and two cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and fills it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured it into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “YES”.

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things - God, family,
children, health, friends, and favorite passions. Things, that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else -- the small stuff.” he said.

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are
important to you...” he told them.

“So... pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Worship with your family. Play with your children. Take your partner out to dinner. Spend time with good friends. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the dripping tap. Take care of the golf balls first -- the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled and said, “I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”

Please share this with other "Golf Balls"

All too often sand can distract me and fill my days :(

I hope this simple story can help us all focus more on prioritizing and appreciating our golf balls! 

Giving a S-#-@-T about Haiti: my recent trip

Tony Campolo was the keynote speaker 30 years ago at a seminary graduation.

He walked on stage and the first words in his speech to all of these Christians were:

"25,000 kids died last night - and you don't give a shit." 

The audience heard this and the whispers began: "Did he really say that?," "Oh my gosh, he just said 'shit.'!?!" etc. The whispering and tension grew and grew. Eventually it reached the president and faculty on stage who were clearly distraught, likely questioning one another about if they should intervene and apologize or let him continue and potentially say something even more shocking which is something Campolo is now known to do.

Before anyone could say anything, Campolo continued:

"The reason I know this is true is that I just told you that 25,000 KIDS DIE EVERY NIGHT and you are more concerned with the fact that I just said a 4 letter word on stage."

Sad, but true.

I heard this story from a man who was in that audience that day. 3 years ago, that story returned to his mind when he felt called by God to start an orphanage - Alex's House - in Haiti. 

And Haiti is the reason I've been in a bit of a hiatus from blogging because I was preparing to lead the trip, actually in Haiti and then resting and recovering after I got back.

I can't even begin to figure out how to get my thoughts and heart down in any brief, understandable way.

• There was so much poverty
• And so much trash which is simply not an adequate term: To take the trash out meant either burning it in a ditch or throwing it in the "river" which was more of a sloshy dump

• There was ridiculous traffic with the stance that traffic laws were mere suggestions... we only saw one stoplight and 2 stop signs the whole week and they were largely disregarded 

• Tent cities were still all around
• There was dirt and dust and mess

And then there were the people:

• The woman who was beaten and robbed right in front of the compound we were staying in; her screams were so frantic that at first we feared she was being raped
• Then there was the man who sat guard at our gate after it that night holding a foot and a half long machete 
• There was the little boy who we spotted sawing rusted rebar in the back of a moving, overflowing dump truck rushing down bumpy roads. He could not have been older than 10. 
• And then there were the 3 teen boys who saw him as the truck turned into a busy intersection. They rushed out through the cars and threw themselves on the side ladder to climb up and join him. The dumptruck did not even slow down. A Haitian woman with us said that was how it was in Haiti: if you wanted work, you were gonna have to get it.

• The little neighborhood boy who hung out with us at the orphanage we were fixing up who was clearly malnourished with his bloated belly and twig arms and legs. Despite his lack of, when we gave him bits of our lunch each day, he taught us a beautiful lesson and SHARED, immediately leaving to give some to his brother before he even tasted the food.

• The countless street children we played with in the afternoons who were dirty, half naked and often barefoot, sick with a snotty nose and SO FULL OF JOY. They laughed and sang and played and hugged, so very grateful even with how little they had. Below is probably the most joyful boy in Haiti... and my favorite ;) Meet Paul!

And there were so many more children like him.

1 in every 5 children in Haiti will DIE before their 5th birthday. (1)

Many of us are familiar with the troubles of Haiti - particularly after the 2010 earthquake - but we don't DO much about them.

I'm by no means tooting my own horn for going; in fact, I feel like I could/should have done so much more...

I don't even know how to begin to do something to fix all the problems I saw.

But I do know, to quote another Alex's House visitor, that "I have seen things I can't unsee." And now, excuse my language, I give a shit.

I hope you do too.

More facts about Haiti can be found here and here and here.

I hope to blog more in the future about ways we can do something.