Wannabe Homemaker in Need of a Handyman...

This is not a personal ad - I promise ;)

BUT, it is a plea.

Gah! It has been soooooooo long since I last posted. I was figuring now that I am out of school, I'd have all of this extra time to write more posts than ever before but... yea, clearly not :/

So what have I been up to? Other than not blogging, obviously ;)

I have been trying to balance 2 jobs, socializing, learning to cook, and finishing moving in to my new place. Plus, I've been trying my hand at homemaking.

While I am happy to report that I am catching on to this whole cooking thing, I am afraid to say that I am failing at the homemaking thing. Well, that might not be quite true: I try to keep things tidy and I have decorated things all matchy-matchy in a cute color scheme BUT I had an epic failure recently:

I was trying to sew some curtains. See, the problem here is that I just bit off more than I could chew... I got a bit too big for my Betty Crocker britches. The Southern Belle in me thought I could handle this. Wrong.

I had the fabric cut and the hem pinned but I couldn't get the sewing machine to work. With the help of a friend I got the machine up and running but then I couldn't get the stitching to work. Stitches were dropped and it just became a tangled mess, clogging up the machine and frustrating me beyond belief. After blowing some steam at the gym I came back and still no luck - not then.... or the next day. Or the next day :(

Perhaps, I'll revoke my previous post...? 

My curtains still sit in the corner :(

I am going to the person I borrowed the machine from tomorrow in hopes that she can help me and give me a lesson in how to be be a real homemaker. Or at least how to be a seamstress!


But that's not all. 

I need a handyman.

I had another recent fail. The Feminist in me doesn't want to admit it. I was trying to be all Miss Independent BUT technology outdid me :(

I bought a universal remote for my tv and thought I could figure it out easy enough. Just read the directions... right? I mean, I have a college degree now, afterall ;)

Unfortunately, my college degree was no good. I spent an hour mashing buttons and inputting codes and reading every single word in the flippin' instructions.

All to no avail.

No matter what I did, the remote wouldn't work. And, to make matters worse, there is no 1-800 customer service number to call. Yes, that should have been red flag number one. But I missed it. Now I'm left with ineffective instructions, no working remote and the urge to throw my remote at my tv.

Sooooooo, I'm in search of a handyman to help me out ;)

I admit my inadequacy in the sewing and technology departments but hopefully soon enough that will change! 

Stereotypes: Terrorism, Feminism and Classical Music

Stereotypes

Stereotypes suck because they limit people - both those doing the stereotyping and those being stereotyped - because stereotypes build boxes that keep people in... and out.

These boxes block off potential - the potential for that person in your eyes and maybe in their own eyes of who they are and can become.

Take, for example, when we stereotype blondes as dumb: we lose the potential knowledge they could share because we write them off as ignorant AND they might lose the potential to believe they can be brainier because they live up to the dumb blonde stereotype.

Terrorism

But, given today's mark in history as the 10th anniversary of the September 11th attacks, I'm sure a different stereotype comes to mind for many of us:

Racial profiling that "Muslim" = "terrorist"

This became so common that this t-shirt was created:

Countless stereotypes exist about Muslims, especially in the media in relation to terrorism. However, according to NBC news, a " 2009 [Pew Research Center] study, Muslims in the United States are much more likely to say that suicide bombings are never justified in defense of Islam than Muslims in other countries. Almost eight in 10 American Muslims say that such attacks are never defensible, compared to 70 percent of Muslims in Britain, 64 percent of Muslims in France, and just 17 percent of Muslims who live in the Palestinian territory."

So, perhaps more Americans should resist the urge to judge a book by its cover... or a person by his or her religion. 

Feminism

I have been judged by my religion before. Countless feminists have been horrified and even in disbelief that I am not only Christian but Baptist. Many people think "Baptist" and "Feminist" cannot be one in the same but, for me they are because my faith is empowering not oppressive. 

Beyond being Baptist, though, I am often judged by my "cover" or appearance because I don't look like the typical stereotype of a feminist: manly, hairy, no bra, etc. (And, for the record, most feminists don't look like that!)

But most people who operate under those stereotypes, would probably never look at me and guess I'm a feminist. I actually look very mainstream... more like a brunette Barbie than say, Andrea Dworkin. 

And, I get judged for that ALL the time...

I have interacted with people who see me dressed in pink or florals or high high heels and assume I am vapid, materialistic and shallow. Then, I open my mouth and I can literally see an expression shoot across their face when they are surprised to see that I am reasonably intelligent and have something of value to add to the conversation.

But because the cover of my book is more like Barbie, I am boxed into a stereotype when in reality I just enjoy fashion after having endured uniforms for years in high school. It just so happens that instead of being emo/goth/grunge or some other counter-culture look, my fashion sense is undeniably and even excessively feminine... very Southern Belle you might say ;)

But, just like being Baptist empowers me, so does my femininity. I feel no need to hide the fact that I am a woman and I have absolutely no desire to look like a man.... I just happen to enjoy wearing skirts, makeup and perfume. This Southern Belle image I have, however, does not reduce my desire to learn, lead, or do anything else I set my mind to. 

Classical Music

Just to end on a fun note after this rather serious post, here is another person who looks a little different and shatters a stereotype while doing so :)

What do you think of when you think classical music? 

Nerdy guy, no fashion sense, elevator music? I have to admit, I sometimes boxed classical musicians into a stereotype similar to that : / 

However, a friend of mine recently introduced me to David Garret. Is it bad that I was hooked before I even heard him play??? ;) 

Anyways, he is from Germany and one of the fastest violinists in the world AND he modernizes the music by playing current songs... like Michael Jackson's Smooth Criminal: 

He has many more songs that might change the way you think about classical music :)

We may not all struggle with boxing in or being boxed in by these particular stereotypes of terrorist, feminist or classical music but we all face stereotypes. 

Next time you're about to judge someone by their appearance...

think OUTSIDE the box...

and let them show you who they truly are, even if who they truly are seems as incompatible as a Southern Belle (Baptist) Feminist :)

Ramblings on Running and Runners

Running.

I don't think I can quite call myself a "runner" but a "walker" sounds slightly lame ;)

And the truth is I do both.

It all depends on my mood... and the humidity.

I have a love/hate relationship with running. Often in the heat, I hate it so it has been difficult to get runs in this summer.

Generally in the hotter months, I prefer to bike - that way you get built in AC :)

However, now that I have moved back to Charleston, I am afraid to bike: I am fairly certain I would die in the traffic so biking is too much of a risk.

Plus, I no longer have access to a gym. I used to visit the on-campus gym for free but now that I'm out of college and paying my own bills, I haven't broken down to pay for a gym membership... yet.

This left running as my best option.

It's just that love/hate thing that I was going to try to explain  UNTIL I found this that captured precisely what I wanted to say.

So, in this post, I decided to try to motivate myself - and hopefully even some of you - by sharing about 3 AWESOME runners.

1. Derek Redmond - Check out this inspiring example of perseverance from the 1992 Olympics...

A play by play is described here and it is awesome to hear about how Derek Redmond just didn't give up. Humidity can stop me but a popped hamstring didn't stop this guy.

His story was so inspiring that it even made it into a country song ;) Or that is what I choose to believe when  I saw Garth Brook's "Standing Outside the Fire" that was released a year after Redmond's race:

2. Dick Hoyt - the dad that runs for his son

Known as Team Hoyt, this father/son running duo is incredible.

3. Oscar Pistorius - aka Blade Runner banned from the Olympics

This guy's story is perhaps the most impressive. He has NO legs. But he still runs.

He lost his legs at a young age but learned to run using metal legs. He was trying out for the Olympics when they decided to ban him for an "unfair advantage"!?! No lie.

This story was so ridiculous that even comedian Katt Williams had to capitalize on it. Please excuse the profanity but  he makes the point well:

So, as Katt Williams says, the next time you think you're havin a bad day (or a bad run) just remember poor lil tink tink and these other awesome runners:

If they can do it, then we can too :)