You're More Beautiful Than You Think.
I'd be willing to bet on it.
As women especially, we are ridiculously hard on ourselves.
It has never been more apparent than in this recent experiment by Dove:
These women so misrepresented
themselves. The sketch of what others saw was so much more grace-giving than
the ones where they described how they perceived themselves to be.
We see - and focus on - flaws rather
than our stronger features.
I do it too.
I recently had a horrible breakout
AND an even worse haircut that looked like a mix between Cindy Lou Who from the
Grinch and a 1960s bouffant hairstyle. There was an increase in self-hate talk
and a decrease in confidence.
Thank God those are two very
temporary situations.
Skin clears and hair grows
back.
But, sadly, body image issues
remain.
- Was the video from above; here is a still-shot the
article showed:
- 5'3" and 166.2 pounds: average height and weight for American women. 5'10" and 120 pounds: average for fashion models
- Age 6: when girls start to express concerns about their own weight or shape. 40-60% of elementary girls: amount who are concerned about their weight or about becoming too fat. (AGE 6!?! No wonder this is a pervasive problem for women... we are conditioned to be concerned about our image by the time we begin elementary school.)
- 12-13 years old: the median ages for onset of an eating disorder in adolescents. 20 million: U.S. women who suffer from a clinically significant eating disorder at some time in their life.
- 4%: amount of women globally who consider themselves beautiful.
- 2/3 of women globally: the amount who strongly agree that "the media and advertising set an unrealistic standard of beauty that most women can't ever achieve"
- Researchers have found that "fat talk"—a phenomena in which a person makes negative claims about their weight to others—is an expected norm among women and a way for them to appear more modest.
- A study published in the Journal of Eating Disorders found that while "fat talk" tended to decrease with age, "old talk" often came in to replace it, and that both were reported by women who appeared to have a negative body image
- The only complete way to overcome the problem is to have our beliefs about body image transformed by the Holy Spirit. As Heather Davis says in the Journal of Biblical Counseling:
In
pursuing worldly beauty, we strive to become this elusive image in place of who
we really are. You and I are created in the image of the living God. Our
purpose is to reflect His image to the world. But since the fall, we let the
world inscribe its image on us. It is the very picture of sin and ultimately
death. Instead of being transformed to God's image, we conform to the world's
image...
God makes
you beautiful with the beauty of His Son, Jesus. It is in gazing at God's image
in Jesus Christ that you are transformed. Romans 12:1-2
says, "Therefore, I urge you, (sisters) in view of God's mercy, to offer
your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your
spiritual act of worship. Do not be conformed any longer to the pattern of this
world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind."
And, said in a different way, this
is one of my all-time favorite slam poems, "You are Beautiful" by
Mike Young. It is SO worth a listen!
Some of my favorite lines of his
are...
- Saying that you're nothing does not honor me
- Humility isn't thinking less of you, it's thinking of you less
- This reality: you look just like your Daddy
- [who thinks you're beautiful?] "I do" proclaims the voice that spoke the skies
- You are beautiful because of what I say... - God
Genesis 1:27 says:
So God created human beings in his own image.
In the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.
We look just like our daddy.
As Mike Young says, the voice that
spoke the skies spoke our name and when He did, He had glory on his lips.
We are beautifully and wonderfully
made in the image of the creator of the entire world.
He does not make mistakes and He
made us exactly as we are... it is a slap in His face when we insult our image
or anyone else since we all represent Him.
I hope you can live out the Romans
verses above. Break you mind from distorting your image from anything but
beautiful.
As the Dove campaign put it,
"You're More Beautiful Than You Think."
